If your dog isn’t listening, ignoring commands, or showing signs of dominance, they may be trying to take the alpha role in your home. A well-balanced relationship with your dog is not about negotiation—it’s about clear boundaries and consistent structure. By following the tips below, you’ll help your dog understand that you are the leader and provider of the pack.

Be firm, patient, consistent, and kind—but always be the leader. If you don’t take on the leadership role, your dog will—and that once “adorable puppy” can quickly turn into “that difficult dog.”

Use these exercises until you get things back on the right track and then you can “loosen the reins.”  Individually, these exercises will offer little results but collectively they can do wonders.* 

1. Reclaim the Bed

Let your dog sleep elsewhere for a few nights. In the canine world, sleeping arrangements can reflect rank. If your dog jumps on the bed without permission, calmly say “OFF.” Then, ask for a “sit” before inviting them back up. Sleeping in your bed should be a privilege, not a right.

2. Use the Focus Command

Teach your dog to look at you by holding a treat or your hand near your nose and saying “focus.” This builds eye contact and strengthens your communication and bond.

3. No Free Feeding

Always feed your dog at set times. Do not leave food out all day. Use mealtimes as training opportunities—ask for a “sit” or “down” before placing the bowl on the floor. This reinforces that you control the resources.

4. You Eat First

This may not apply to everyone, but if your dog is showing dominant behavior, eat something (even a small snack) before preparing their meal. In the pack, leaders eat first.

5. Earned Rewards Only

Treats, praise, toys, and access to the bed should all be earned through good behavior. If your dog is demanding attention, ask for a “sit” before petting or throwing a toy.

6. Leaders Go First

Never let your dog bolt out the door ahead of you. Ask for a “sit-stay” or use a “wait” command. Release them only when you say “okay.”

7. Teach Yielding

If your dog is blocking your path, don’t step over or around them. Ask them to move and sit. Take their spot on the couch occasionally to reinforce your leadership.

8. Follow Through with Commands

Always follow through. Use a calm but firm tone, and don’t give in if your dog ignores you. For example, if they don’t come when called, use a leash inside to reinforce the command.

9. You Control Playtime

You decide when play starts and ends. If your dog brings you a toy, have them do a command before you begin. Always end the game by taking the toy and putting it away—or have your dog do one final command before finishing.

These small changes, when used together, can make a big difference in your dog’s behavior and your relationship. With structure, consistency, and clear leadership, your dog will feel more secure and become more well-behaved.

*Note: If your dog is showing serious behavior issues, contact The Urban Pet to schedule an in-home private training session.